Next make a list of the all the people you know.  I suggest starting your own rolodex or address book with everyone's name, address, and phone number on each card along with a description of how they might be able to help.  Include parents, relatives, neighbors, teachers, coaches, counselors, ministers and rabbis, community leaders, and local business women on your list.  List everyone that you respect, admire, think is cool, smart, and those who have great self confidence.  Don't limit your list to women and older girls, you should have a couple of males on your list to cover topics like brother-sister stuff, and male points of view.  Include in the list anyone who may be able to help you find a mentor. 

After you have your lists completed, start contacting the people who you would most like to be your mentor.  Either call them on the phone or approach them with a question.  If you are looking for a spiritual mentor, ask the person about how she keeps a balance between her spiritual life and her career.  If you are searching for someone to help you with your English homework, ask if they have read the book you are reading.  Ask questions that relate to your need for a mentor.  If the person you approach doesn't seem to have any great insight or doesn't want to help, ask if they might know of someone who would be interested in being your mentor.  If they are still unresponsive move to the next person on your list. 

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